Working With Me

I believe that therapeutic fit is the most important part when finding a therapist you want to work with. You should find someone with whom you not only can share the most intimate pieces of you, but can also enjoy spending your therapeutic hours. Be on the lookout for a good mix of chemistry and commitment to your needs.

ATTACHMENT

I’m an attachment-based therapist. This means that my biggest concern is the way that you relate to the things, people, and experiences most important to you. We will talk about the relationship between you and me. As we spend more time together, we’ll find patterns in how we interact and respond to one another that can give great insight on what’s happening in your relationships in the rest of your world. We’ll talk about how you relate to experiences and past traumas. This will be a space where we explore how everything you learned from your caregivers and communities have shaped the way you relate to the world now.

DIRECT, NOT DIRECTIVE

The former describes communication style and the latter describes therapeutic style. I am a straight-talker. I don’t believe in dancing around topics or tension that clearly sits in the room with us. I will call it like I see it and challenge you to live authentically and with intention. This can look like me calling out a behavior that doesn’t align with your stated desires or simply asking the hard questions. On the other hand, I’m not a directive therapist. This means I will never ask you to go somewhere you’re not ready to therapeutically. I may check-in from time to time to make sure you’re getting what you want from therapy, but I will never push you in to processing a trauma that you don’t think you’re ready for. I’m not here to force you to re-experience anything, I’m just here to facilitate healing on your terms.

SOMATIC

I firmly believe that the body is a way more honest communicator than our cognitive thoughts. This is true when it comes to trauma, relationships, and instincts. We might spend time learning to listen to your body in ways that you may never have or have for some reason stopped. This is particularly important when working with traumatic experiences. Our nervous systems are resilient and through somatic work we can renegotiate trauma and allow that resilience to be put to work.

HUMOR

I’m no stand up comic, but I’ll definitely bring some humor into the room. Laughter provides an opportunity to get into our bodies, settle our nervous systems, and help build rapport. I’m pretty easily amused, so your corny jokes are also welcome. Many of my clients have spent years conceptualizing their lives and coping in the best ways they could and now they just laugh. That’s okay. There are definitely times to be somber and grieve; laughter provides a break in the grey. Sometimes the stuff we go through is just so ridiculous that we just laugh about it. Whether it’s a nervous laugh or a jovial one, bring the laughs with you.

Individual Session: $225

Couples/Relationship Session: $250